Cerebral Palsy living independently part 2

Cerebral Palsy Living Independent, Part 2, Growing Up And Choice In Life

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I move from home when I start high school in another city. Maybe I was around 17 years old. So for a year, I lived on the week, 2 hours away by car, from my birth family.
Residing with a family but I had to do food, laundry and everything else you have to do when you live yourself.

My growing up was special, what I think. I have calculated that 17 people lived with us between what I was the age of 7 years to 15 years. Then I have only counted those who lived more than 6 months. For four years we had 6 Indians living at home with us. Had famous musicians living and in principle were all living artists. So maybe it’s not that strange that I’m an artist.

With all these people, different norms were created. So I have learned a lot of different systems how people can live a life. So coaching is one of my specialties.

In addition, I was always in motion and lived regularly with different types of people. I have registered at 300 addresses and my sports career meant that I was constantly in hotels and training camps in my native country, Sweden and abroad.

My first apartment was probably not until I was 24 years old. Then went to the author’s school. Before I was 2 years old in an elite sports college. This was 1992. Did not come to Paralympics then, but only 4 years later, Atlanta 1996. After that, my life begins. I had no idea how to live a life. I seriously thought that anyone who did not train to the Olympics had a meaningless life.

1996 after Paralympic, my company started to work seriously. I speak to people. They told me you are not wise believing you can feed yourself to talk, but they were wrong. The public speaking industry is now (2017) one of the largest businesses in Sweden, not knowing much about other countries. But in 1992, when I opened my company, there were few who lived in public speaking.

The public speaking profession is a lonely job, just like pianists or other around traveling professions. You have your show and you will end up alone in a hotel room somewhere. Many times, you do not know the city you are in. My relationships with women were not my best subject. I was so busy by my athletes and I did not see all the women who fell in front of my legs, literally.

Familj Barbro Gai Mooki Polly

My present wife, Gai and her two daughters. With Barbro my first wife who was visiting a number of years ago

Beginning in the 2000s, I realized that I should engage more in this subject and soon after I meet my first wife. Had lots of strange untouched relationships before, but with her life became more stable. We were both public speakers and yet we have contact regularly. My current wife calls her big sister. Without my first wife, I had been a lost soul on the planet Earth. 2009, when I moved to Thailand, we divorced. I needed to take care of my cramps and pain in the body in the heat and in her life, there were grandchildren and other things that made her stay in Sweden. I do not have my own children, but both wives, or how to express myself, have grandchildren.

This story of my life is not especially about Cerebral Palsy living independently, but more about how a life can look, but I have a CP injury. I want to highlight that I lived a fairly common life from the perspective of life issues everyone poses.
How to move from home the first time by yourself, school, profession, get family and more. Of course, I’m a bit extreme, professional career.
My first job was elite athletics, world record holder in the long jump, for my injury class. Then public speaking, coach and now artist musician.
Has also worked with other things, for example, a research assistant for a number of years on the subject Cerebral Palsy.
Atlantsegling Mikael 1988I only meet one person who sailed across the Atlantic since I did it in 1988 and I meet a lot of people.

Most people do not move to another continent or another country. I know no CP-injured who have moved permanently from Europe to Asia, but there are surely more than me who changed continent. I can say that it’s a big change that takes many years. Since I moved 2009, to Thailand, my life is totally different. I am much happier and live my passion, in a different way than I could ever have done in Europe.

Cerebral Palsy living independently

Cerebral Palsy living independently
Living independently of other people when you have a differentiation is not so obvious.
I forget that, according to a doctor, I have a CP injury. People assume I live with a 24-hour servis and my wife cares for all chores and supplies me. OJ .. Yes, I have a wife.  Swedish, svenska klicka här http://mikael-avatar-stjernvall.blogspot.com/2017/04/cerebral-palsy-living-independently.html

Not even this is obvious with a wife, if you do not know who I am.

The next thought that arises is: How does she think when she lives with someone like me. What made her choose me … the more people think the more questions arise. How does she provide him it can not be easy. Then add that I’m an artist and create abstract paintings, with abstract music. Not even my wife understands what I do and how can this be explained to any human being?

My wife makes it easy and says … I drive a car and have a driving license. Mostly he drives a motorcycle.
By saying this, this solves many mysteries about our relationship. We are ordinary people and he can drive a motorcycle. Since I moved to Thailand 2009 I did not see a single person with disabilities driving a car or motorcycle. At least in Thailand, very unusual.

 

Yes .. I do not cook food so often. Maybe sometime a year. Not because I can not.
That’s because my wife has worked as a 5 star chef for 15 years. Her passion is food. The biggest thing she did was as First Chef with 10 others, serving 10,000 guests at the same time.
When you see her in the kitchen, it’s like watching a ballerina dance at the highest level. It’s just a blast of energy. I promise I have nothing in the kitchen to do.

My starting point when it comes to food is that there is some unnecessary pain that man has to do daily. It steals time to make other sensible things …. So I think it’s a good idea that in the kitchen I will not be …
This creates problems. It is rare to go out and eat locally. The food is too bad and when we go out, it often happens that the chef asks my wife to make the food as she is a famous chef …

Among the few times I cook is when the oldest daughter comes and then there is genuine Swedish home cooking on the menu. It is high in courses on the Thai family menu when daughters are tired of Gourmet food ….

Motivational video never give up

Motivational video never give up by Artist Mikael Avatar.

In this video tells of growing up and part of life, who get different choices. Schooling, sailing across the Atlantic … simply a story about never giving up no matter what happens

The sound relaxes after. Sorry about this, but the content is good for those who it fits.

 

 

Injustices by Artist Mikael Avatar

Injustices

Injustices by Artist Mikael Avatar

Injustices by Artist Mikael Avatar

All people have injustices. The question is how we do with them.

I forget that people who do not know me can sometimes treat me differently. I do not think that maybe it’s the first time someone meets a person with Cerebral Palsy.

Here in Thailand, does not show many disabled people on the street. They are kept away. If I am right, it is because that culture says you were a bad person in last life. You came this time to earth with a functional barrier.

This week I looked at motivating video and the majority is about to overcome injustice. All are treated unfairly and the question is how we use this knowledge to our advantage …

Another angle is that you do not need to be the best to be the best. I can attest, is true. I was not the best athlete I encounter during my career. Many were better. I train just more than all the others and made me grace goal: to be the best.

A movie I saw said it … those who train to make good videos on youtube 120 times a year, will be beaten by the person making 360 videos per year. With the same talent …

It is about the desire to achieve my goals. How much are you willing to spend to reach your goal. And then we come to the great passion you have, for what you are doing ????

This will determine if you reach, wherever you want, or if you choose to just be normal …

Excellent will be people willing to go the extra step in life, though there is energy to do anything. You just go with your passion to achieve your goal. Whatever happens…

Now it’s a long time since I was elite athletes. As I said before when I train for the Para-Olympics 1996, Atlanta, low training hours at about 70-80 hours a week. 1992 I came not to the Para-Olympics and tested how much my body to exercise for one week. The end result was about 140 hours to 164 hours possible.

So for Atlanta to 70-80 hours, my brain knew that I can work 70-80 hours without any problems. I am completely superior in every workout.

How far are you willing to go to achieve what you want …

The difference to have had a world record or be 2 centimeters away from having a world record is immense … You can not compare these two people … It is just so … Take the example: I almost went to the moon, I was almost giving birth, I moved almost new ….

It can be good stories to tell, but you certainly explains just why it did not happen with a lot of excuses … ..
If you lived in NY or given birth to a child, it is just so …

My suggestion is that you become a world record holder in managing your greatest passion. Whatever happens….

Awareness

A new series of cerebral palsy awareness. Are you aware that you are a woman or a man? Aware that you have a certain disease or profession. I am not aware that I am a  celebrating palsy person. I talk in this film about the awareness of cerebral palsy, but no matter who you are, you can benefit from this …

 

 

Good story telling, extinction

Being able to tell stories around a campfire is not as common as 200 years ago.

The magic of fire and no street-lighting did as I believe that man created easier stories to tell.

Today everything goes much faster and a good story reaches thousands or millions of people in a few hours.

A video is the best means to get a message across or a good story.

I still write. Allows letters to come and words are formed. I’m happy to tell you good stories when the opportunity exists.

You draw the listener into a situation. Disagree a bit, so the listener wants to hear more. At the end, a twist, then everything will be fine. Then live the story further, inside the listener thoughts.

These texts I write on my blog is more like aphorisms. Not always understandable, but more to provoke thoughts and ideas.

I love to get people to think a little bit more than what is written or told.

So I will do a series of stories about different episodes of my life. I will do them in English and talk. With this text is the first ….

The series will be called: “Motivational Stories Artist Mikael Avatar”

The first is called: Stopped by the police in Spain

The parallel life, the neighbor has

The parallel life, the neighbor hasThe parallel life, the neighbor has

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We all live parallel lives. Most people live a life here on earth, alike ..

We are born, grow up through some form of schooling. Starting work in any form and receive family. Retire and then die.

The written laws and regulations on this in the most countries. UN guidelines on this and other secular organizations.

It is certainly so. That is how you should live a life on earth. End of discussion….

Even lions have the same structure but without laws and regulations ….
You are born as lions and begin wrestling. A kind of schooling and then you start to work with to get food, get yourself a family in the pack … will be eliminated (pension) then you die …

In addition to laws and regulations, different lions from us at one point. Leo is not cooperating with other flocks on the Rights how to live a lion’s life … or how I am to express myself.

Yes … it looks almost the same in the entire animal world. WWF (World Wide Fund for Nature) and other organizations draw up guidelines on animal rights and more.

There is nothing wrong with it as you read above. There are only so …

It is said that people live civilized and not as predators, such as lions.

I just wonder sometimes. How did it all, end up as it is now.

The school of life

“The school of life”“The school of life” that people are talking about. What does that mean?

We learn from our mistakes that make us grow. Grow to what? New life? Better understanding of our actions that are programmed into our development of a passionate talent. What ever you do, life goes on.
Life never stops. Just ticking. Whatever happens, time is ticking on. Never stops …

So what to do?
When I sit by the sea, it feels like time is standing still, but still the waves roll toward the shore nearly every second …

A music piece usually lasts a couple minutes. An image is perceived within a tenth of a second … but the experience can be for hours. It is as if the image or certain music triggers memories of a bygone era.

We have learned an interpretive system and our mind categorizes different memories in different compartments. Happiness, fun, sorrow, incomprehension. And the more complicated words of sympathy and empathy. Not to mention the parasympathetic nervous system reflexes in the limbic system. …
Oh. The last was perhaps a bit too advanced. Simplified, this means that if you meditate on the beach, it is very likely that you activate the parasympathetic system. In other words, you are resting in any form.

But this is still only a crude explanation for something we do not understand.

It is said that we use 5-10% of our brain capacity. Perhaps it is so that we only understand 5-10% of the brain and therefore we believe that we only use 5-10%.

You may have heard this story before, but I will tell it again:
A professor I have worked with in the 90s said: if you take a foghorn on the concert hall outer wall, while a symphony orchestra is playing and you try to listen through the fog horn if the Violin I is tuned or not. Maybe that is the greatest challenge for some scientists.

This story says several things. Two interesting things I want to highlight, this time:
One, we do not have the right instruments to measure what happens in the body
Two, what does it matter if violin is tuned or not, when we do not understand why we get so emotional when the orchestra plays as a whole ….

Rene Descarte divide the body into different parts that create the medical profession specialties today. Eyes, nose, mouth, ears, liver, lung, bone, heart and more.

In a diagnosis, doctors rarely see the whole body as one unit. It’s like trying to find the violin that is not tuned ….
I do not want to insult the medical profession, they do a fantastic job and I would have been dead without them. Several times over …