A true anecdote from my childhood

glass shardsI start souping up glass shards from the shattered glass table in the living room. I’ve worn my workout shoes so I don’t cut my feet. Glass shards, of a fragmented life.

The chaos that was created in my mind I would benefit from when I trained for the Olympics many years later. Now I was only 7 years old and didn’t show much about, life school. It would hurt, to clear all the broken glass from my childhood. But I had no choice.

I had to make my way through the pain, without anesthetic. It was like watching open wounds and feeling the blood flow down the legs, to the pool on the ground. All the wounds had to drain and only then would I be free.

After that, the journey to the new unexplored land of opportunity began. What would I choose to be. Where would I choose to go. Nothing holds me back and I can find “promised land” for real. It took some time, but was worth every second.

Soon I will launch my new website … then there will be more stories of chaos, but above all development until today.

Mikael Avatar from lighter, state of emergency in Thailand

The time I have

The time I haveWhen the time comes to us. Getting time over, what do you do with life, then? I always hear that when I get time I will do …… ..and then people say a lot of things, what they are going to do.

My experience is that a plan is needed to achieve goals. Action steps, step by step in detail plan. When the actual implementation is done, new opportunities are always created that are impossible to see before I start.

Often it takes time, before I see the effects, of what I have chosen to begin with. I know that change is the only thing that takes me further in my development (see last week’s text).

Things that hinder me are most, external questioning. The views of family and friends. So I have to isolate myself from telling, too soon what my plan is. Otherwise, there is a great risk that people I meet will kill my plan. What I have learned over the years is to trust people who have already done what I intend to do. Listen to them and follow their insights, the process of success. Then the chance is very high that I succeed …

Every morning when I wake up I have millions and again millions of choices, which are possible projects. I am aware of this and choose to limit my choices to only a few projects. Private, occupation and free time. Then I work strategically, creating a template where I step by step take action on the new I want to create.

It is no more difficult than a shopping list. You write what to buy and then you go to the store and buy the things. When it comes to more complicated goals such as becoming an artist or learning a new language or starting to ride, the first step is the same, simply expressed. Step one can be, check if there are evening courses on what you want and then go there… or online courses on the internet (can be difficult to ride on the internet). Talking to more knowledgeable people about what you want certainly saves you years of carving out on your own.

To you who are a constant reader of my texts … do you have any benefit from the texts in your life? and in such cases, how?

CHANGE

changeCHANGE

To be constantly in processes and development.

The universe is constantly evolving. It is said that the only thing that is constant is change. Everything will not be the same as last year. Everything has changed, it is really among the few things that is guaranteed. So I have to constantly grow and develop to keep up with the developments in the world.

In order to develop, I have to constantly decide on what to take away and what new will take its place. Constant decision: Am I on the right track. Constantly contemplating on what I’m doing now, is this leading to what I really want. Always be on my guard if my progress is optimal.

I’m getting tired just writing this. It’s really hard and time consuming, with all the information. One of my mentors says that I must become an expert at transforming information, to my benefit. Keep away everything that doesn’t affect me and just have focus, on what drives me towards what I want to create.

I get better just taking pictures for my reality, which brings me forward. Read and judge what I read faster. Say no, faster when the information is not essential to me. Turn off the brain so I don’t create new realities all the time.

How does the information society work in your reality?

Catch in life

Add a heading(1)Catch in life. Fishing lure passes through the air and lands at the edge of the reeds. The pike chops the fishing tackle directly. The pike is a little when it is up on the gray rock. How many hours in my life have I seen the fishing tackle go through the air? Fishing has followed me since childhood. Fishing herring in the spring and pimple perch on the winter, with the ice drill drilling hole after hole. Now only the memories are left of the happiness’s face when the fish nipped. I am chasing completely different things in my life now. The biggest I haven’t had to nip, yet. The happiness of being able to succeed, catching the happiness. So it becomes permanent as an immobile rock by the sea. Happiness is thinner than air and infuses away through the gaps in life’s crackled corridors of cotton-like, air castles. Does it even exist? It is said that you must have a counter-pole in order to experience the other. So the opposite of happiness may be sorrow. Without the grip of grief in the River of Life, happiness cannot be captured.
The cat mom eats up the kittens is a picture I try to push away. But it is not possible and maybe it is the picture that takes me closer to happiness. How many times do I have to face the opposite pole before it becomes permanently anchored in the frozen core of my heart? There are so many questions I can’t answer. Imagine if I could just be ordinary. Don’t philosophize much. Just think of everyday events in life. Jobs, rest, food and where to go next vacation. Simple and concise. I crank the line of life, once again and hope that this catch is what I want most. But once again I am disappointed. Another road choice that gave fiasco. I clear the lure and prepare the next throws. Faith is said to be able to move mountains. I think everything will be better, I throw in the stream of life.
Now I will pull up the catch of the happiness of life that takes me to the stone by the sea, where time stands still and everything is ok….

How lost am I …

How lost am IHow lost am I …

If we play with the idea that we are lost on the sea, in a boat…

We say we travel for a month with the boat and we don’t know where we are…

When I sailed across the Atlantic, in 1988, we did not see land in 30 days. It was water / sea in every direction all the way to the horizon. Finding someone who is lost is impossible. Even though today’s technology is well developed, it is difficult to find someone if they do not have a contactable signal system.

It is said that life is a lonely experience. We can share thoughts with other people, but really life is a lonely person’s experience. At sea you / I are small. Water and again water. In life, I / you are lost the majority of the time, my hypothesis.

So when we travel for a month at sea and do not know where we are. How long does it take to find back or find something we want to find that we don’t know. One month? Hardly. If it is a month to travel in all directions, it will take significantly more time. It is said that it takes 30 days of daily metal training to be able to change a thought pattern. And probably longer before it’s fully automated.

Most people I have met through life all have a boat to go anywhere. But very few have left the harbor. They look at the horizon and dream. Not today the waves seem high or there will be rain today. When the sea is shiny and the sun is shining beautifully like a beast. Are we saying: Not today I’ll enjoy now when it’s finally sun…

So the boat stays in the harbor all life and the dream keeps life in its longing. Dr. Frankel, the book “Life Must Have a Meaning,” he interviewed people who were with the Holocaust and everyone had something to hook their lives on. A love that awaited, a child who might be alive, a house / village / social life that they showed had to be found when everything was over in the camps.
So my boat in the harbor is being refurbished and taken care of in case the journey begins today … if I lose faith that the dream will not come. I lose my life. People without dreams and goals are dead corpses, who live shortly after they lose faith. Time and time again I see this happening. When the dream is gone and no new dream exists. Life faded away and only a diffuse shadow can be seen.

In last week’s text I said that: The interesting thing is not what you start to change in your life today, but if you still in 5 years make your new habits.

It usually takes 5 years, before what you start with, gets a meaning in life. It took me 100 paintings before I felt that I might be an artist. 100 YouTube videos before I could really edit videos I wanted. More than 100 pieces of music before I really felt that the music, I was creating was like something I wanted to create…

Partly it is the craft I need to learn, but most of all how to think. How I step by step see my eyes open and I see things I couldn’t do before…

So how many hours do I have left before I can see what I really want to create?

Are you lost in your life?

Passion’s death

Passion's deathPassion death or death of passion?

I have talked about the need for passion to create a new reality. It is the driving force itself and then I think a structure is needed. Step by step, follow a plan toward something that is your passion. Many other well-known coaches / mentors talk about Habit. Daily routines. They say it’s not interesting what you start with right now. The interesting thing is if in 5 years you still do your daily routine that you start with now?

To be able to follow a daily routine for 5 years, I think, you need an inspirational or fiery soul, who you eagerly follow and who encourage your success. Seeing small changes in a positive direction every day is difficult. Over a longer period, it is easier to see the change and your idea is giving results. Many people have, long ago, stopped their daily routine, if you can not see results or get feedback that you are on the right path.

Life just rolls on, and every now and then the idea of changing life comes up. Finally, we make peace with the thoughts of the mind and say to ourselves: When I retire, I’ll start…

When I had time, in my life in 2009, ie 10 years ago. I really didn’t have anything on my agenda or scheduled appointments. I decided to find out what I really wanted. I was 41 years old. Isolated. I was completely excluded from my previous life in Sweden and lived in a whole new country with no real connections to it. So I was not drawn into any must or should do or other things I felt obliged to do while living in Sweden. All of this was 11 flight hours away and I could calmly focus on: What I really wanted to do with my life.

I was absolutely convinced that it would be a simple task and after a month I would be on my way to my new adventure.

It wasn’t. It wasn’t easy at all. I had to research myself and question all the successes I had. What did I actually do in the Olympics, Paraolympia? Why do I coach people? What is it in me that thinks you want to follow me as a life coach? Why am I eating this particular food and no one else? Or why is it important to evaluate one’s life?

The more I relaxed, the more questions I had. After about 2 years I started to find a red thread. I began to understand how everything was connected, but made no decision what to do for the rest of my life. It only came after about 4 years. I made lots of different lists of what I thought would make me happy and successful. Lists of things I wanted to accomplish with my life. Lists of people’s characters I wanted around me. But really it didn’t have any value to me. So I started over from scratch time after time. That’s why it took time. I had people come to visit for a week here or there. Then I had 11 months to myself. I would just crack the nuts What should I do the rest of my life?

That became my goal.

What is your goal in life?

2020 the year when everything will be different right ???

New Year's text by Mikael Avatar🔥🔥🔥 2020 the year when everything will be different right ??

My experience with myself and others I coached for 40 years and more than 20,000 hours of one to one coaching is:

  • No one wants to go anywhere voluntarily if they do not suffer and their whole existence is not threatened
  • I have not met anyone who has moved from where they are to a better standard in their lives without a coach / mentor or inspirer to help do what is required, including myself
  • Only 3 out of 100 people succeed though they have a coach / mentor or inspirer to help them come to a completely different way of living a life
  • Next everyone I talked to wants to live another life, but only 3 out of 100 manage to create this

A little of the above statements, he may explain that the coaching industry is only at the beginning of development. Are the coaches too bad because only 3 out of 100 succeed?

No…

Most people who have a coach / mentor / inspirer feel better and have a better understanding of their life, after collaboration.

My mentors I use say that people pay between $ 1000 and $ 10,000 for help for a better life, but 3 out of 100 people do the work that is actually required to take your life elsewhere. 97 people do not do the work, to come to a better life, though they paid for their own development.

3 out of 100 sounds very little, so let me explain. When you were a kid you might paint, ride a horse, play some instrument, play football or some other sport. How many of them you met when you were a child are now:

Artists, work with horses, musicians, or professional sports woman / man?

Probably fewer than 3 people… So we humans test a lot of things but it is about 3 out of 100 that actually after 5 years is still doing what we tested 5 years earlier.

There is no magic pill that you can buy. If you want to create another life, you have to work with the life task.

I have described over and over again how I created things in my life. To become long jumpers, you should do at least 1000 long jumps and 1000 hours of training.

If you want to get to the Olympics, you should do more than 10,000 long jumps and more than 10,000 hours of training. I did about 15,000 hours of training for my world record, in long jump for my injury class at Paraolympisk.

The same if you want to become an artist, musician or veterinarian or other profession. I did 100 paintings to see if I wanted to be an artist. Before, it is not possible to decide. You must, in my opinion, do many hours of work before you can decide if this is really what you want to do. Many read the subject of a profession in younger years, but the majority have a profession in something completely different when they are older.

I would like to say that:

You don’t have to have talent. You need passion to be able to do 10,000 hours in the area you want to succeed.

You need people around you who are like-minded, coaches, inspirers and, above all, people who believe in you, listen to you.

These people, you will need: when in doubt, when you are sad that it does not work, when you make the wrong choice, when you lose all hope of success. This belongs to the process.

So these people around you will support you to overcome all obstacles and keep your focus on your dream of achieving success towards what you are striving for.

Last year 2019, I spent between 500-600 * hours on an advanced Social Media Marketing course and will, among other things, in 2020 start helping people with internet marketing and launch my new website Life Coach Mega.

So now it’s time to see if my 600 hours * of training can produce the return I hope for. I have had great fun with my education and now the fruits will be harvested.

The leading theme from my teachers is:

Do the footwork, reprogram your brain, against the new, which you will create (which is your biggest obstacle, which you will not do), then you need some technical knowledge, but most of it is to train to think from a completely different perspective than where you are now. If you do this, you are there within 12-18 months whatever you want to achieve…

If you do not want to do footwork / rethink, against something new, you will probably live a life that 97% of the earth’s population does. Probably a good life, when you are 70 years old 80 years old and looking back on how you lived.

The 3% who do something else live an extraordinary life, which the other 97% marvel at.

You who read, right up to here …

Thank you: What are your plans for 2020?

Happy new end and welcome to 2020 with new opportunities

Mikael Avatar

Funds of Life Coach Mega, launched in 2020, very soon

* 600 hours per year = 50 hours per month = about 12 hours per week = about 2.5 hours per day Monday to Friday

 

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