How lost am I …

How lost am IHow lost am I …

If we play with the idea that we are lost on the sea, in a boat…

We say we travel for a month with the boat and we don’t know where we are…

When I sailed across the Atlantic, in 1988, we did not see land in 30 days. It was water / sea in every direction all the way to the horizon. Finding someone who is lost is impossible. Even though today’s technology is well developed, it is difficult to find someone if they do not have a contactable signal system.

It is said that life is a lonely experience. We can share thoughts with other people, but really life is a lonely person’s experience. At sea you / I are small. Water and again water. In life, I / you are lost the majority of the time, my hypothesis.

So when we travel for a month at sea and do not know where we are. How long does it take to find back or find something we want to find that we don’t know. One month? Hardly. If it is a month to travel in all directions, it will take significantly more time. It is said that it takes 30 days of daily metal training to be able to change a thought pattern. And probably longer before it’s fully automated.

Most people I have met through life all have a boat to go anywhere. But very few have left the harbor. They look at the horizon and dream. Not today the waves seem high or there will be rain today. When the sea is shiny and the sun is shining beautifully like a beast. Are we saying: Not today I’ll enjoy now when it’s finally sun…

So the boat stays in the harbor all life and the dream keeps life in its longing. Dr. Frankel, the book “Life Must Have a Meaning,” he interviewed people who were with the Holocaust and everyone had something to hook their lives on. A love that awaited, a child who might be alive, a house / village / social life that they showed had to be found when everything was over in the camps.
So my boat in the harbor is being refurbished and taken care of in case the journey begins today … if I lose faith that the dream will not come. I lose my life. People without dreams and goals are dead corpses, who live shortly after they lose faith. Time and time again I see this happening. When the dream is gone and no new dream exists. Life faded away and only a diffuse shadow can be seen.

In last week’s text I said that: The interesting thing is not what you start to change in your life today, but if you still in 5 years make your new habits.

It usually takes 5 years, before what you start with, gets a meaning in life. It took me 100 paintings before I felt that I might be an artist. 100 YouTube videos before I could really edit videos I wanted. More than 100 pieces of music before I really felt that the music, I was creating was like something I wanted to create…

Partly it is the craft I need to learn, but most of all how to think. How I step by step see my eyes open and I see things I couldn’t do before…

So how many hours do I have left before I can see what I really want to create?

Are you lost in your life?

Passion’s death

Passion's deathPassion death or death of passion?

I have talked about the need for passion to create a new reality. It is the driving force itself and then I think a structure is needed. Step by step, follow a plan toward something that is your passion. Many other well-known coaches / mentors talk about Habit. Daily routines. They say it’s not interesting what you start with right now. The interesting thing is if in 5 years you still do your daily routine that you start with now?

To be able to follow a daily routine for 5 years, I think, you need an inspirational or fiery soul, who you eagerly follow and who encourage your success. Seeing small changes in a positive direction every day is difficult. Over a longer period, it is easier to see the change and your idea is giving results. Many people have, long ago, stopped their daily routine, if you can not see results or get feedback that you are on the right path.

Life just rolls on, and every now and then the idea of changing life comes up. Finally, we make peace with the thoughts of the mind and say to ourselves: When I retire, I’ll start…

When I had time, in my life in 2009, ie 10 years ago. I really didn’t have anything on my agenda or scheduled appointments. I decided to find out what I really wanted. I was 41 years old. Isolated. I was completely excluded from my previous life in Sweden and lived in a whole new country with no real connections to it. So I was not drawn into any must or should do or other things I felt obliged to do while living in Sweden. All of this was 11 flight hours away and I could calmly focus on: What I really wanted to do with my life.

I was absolutely convinced that it would be a simple task and after a month I would be on my way to my new adventure.

It wasn’t. It wasn’t easy at all. I had to research myself and question all the successes I had. What did I actually do in the Olympics, Paraolympia? Why do I coach people? What is it in me that thinks you want to follow me as a life coach? Why am I eating this particular food and no one else? Or why is it important to evaluate one’s life?

The more I relaxed, the more questions I had. After about 2 years I started to find a red thread. I began to understand how everything was connected, but made no decision what to do for the rest of my life. It only came after about 4 years. I made lots of different lists of what I thought would make me happy and successful. Lists of things I wanted to accomplish with my life. Lists of people’s characters I wanted around me. But really it didn’t have any value to me. So I started over from scratch time after time. That’s why it took time. I had people come to visit for a week here or there. Then I had 11 months to myself. I would just crack the nuts What should I do the rest of my life?

That became my goal.

What is your goal in life?