How lost am I …

How lost am IHow lost am I …

If we play with the idea that we are lost on the sea, in a boat…

We say we travel for a month with the boat and we don’t know where we are…

When I sailed across the Atlantic, in 1988, we did not see land in 30 days. It was water / sea in every direction all the way to the horizon. Finding someone who is lost is impossible. Even though today’s technology is well developed, it is difficult to find someone if they do not have a contactable signal system.

It is said that life is a lonely experience. We can share thoughts with other people, but really life is a lonely person’s experience. At sea you / I are small. Water and again water. In life, I / you are lost the majority of the time, my hypothesis.

So when we travel for a month at sea and do not know where we are. How long does it take to find back or find something we want to find that we don’t know. One month? Hardly. If it is a month to travel in all directions, it will take significantly more time. It is said that it takes 30 days of daily metal training to be able to change a thought pattern. And probably longer before it’s fully automated.

Most people I have met through life all have a boat to go anywhere. But very few have left the harbor. They look at the horizon and dream. Not today the waves seem high or there will be rain today. When the sea is shiny and the sun is shining beautifully like a beast. Are we saying: Not today I’ll enjoy now when it’s finally sun…

So the boat stays in the harbor all life and the dream keeps life in its longing. Dr. Frankel, the book “Life Must Have a Meaning,” he interviewed people who were with the Holocaust and everyone had something to hook their lives on. A love that awaited, a child who might be alive, a house / village / social life that they showed had to be found when everything was over in the camps.
So my boat in the harbor is being refurbished and taken care of in case the journey begins today … if I lose faith that the dream will not come. I lose my life. People without dreams and goals are dead corpses, who live shortly after they lose faith. Time and time again I see this happening. When the dream is gone and no new dream exists. Life faded away and only a diffuse shadow can be seen.

In last week’s text I said that: The interesting thing is not what you start to change in your life today, but if you still in 5 years make your new habits.

It usually takes 5 years, before what you start with, gets a meaning in life. It took me 100 paintings before I felt that I might be an artist. 100 YouTube videos before I could really edit videos I wanted. More than 100 pieces of music before I really felt that the music, I was creating was like something I wanted to create…

Partly it is the craft I need to learn, but most of all how to think. How I step by step see my eyes open and I see things I couldn’t do before…

So how many hours do I have left before I can see what I really want to create?

Are you lost in your life?

Passion’s death

Passion's deathPassion death or death of passion?

I have talked about the need for passion to create a new reality. It is the driving force itself and then I think a structure is needed. Step by step, follow a plan toward something that is your passion. Many other well-known coaches / mentors talk about Habit. Daily routines. They say it’s not interesting what you start with right now. The interesting thing is if in 5 years you still do your daily routine that you start with now?

To be able to follow a daily routine for 5 years, I think, you need an inspirational or fiery soul, who you eagerly follow and who encourage your success. Seeing small changes in a positive direction every day is difficult. Over a longer period, it is easier to see the change and your idea is giving results. Many people have, long ago, stopped their daily routine, if you can not see results or get feedback that you are on the right path.

Life just rolls on, and every now and then the idea of changing life comes up. Finally, we make peace with the thoughts of the mind and say to ourselves: When I retire, I’ll start…

When I had time, in my life in 2009, ie 10 years ago. I really didn’t have anything on my agenda or scheduled appointments. I decided to find out what I really wanted. I was 41 years old. Isolated. I was completely excluded from my previous life in Sweden and lived in a whole new country with no real connections to it. So I was not drawn into any must or should do or other things I felt obliged to do while living in Sweden. All of this was 11 flight hours away and I could calmly focus on: What I really wanted to do with my life.

I was absolutely convinced that it would be a simple task and after a month I would be on my way to my new adventure.

It wasn’t. It wasn’t easy at all. I had to research myself and question all the successes I had. What did I actually do in the Olympics, Paraolympia? Why do I coach people? What is it in me that thinks you want to follow me as a life coach? Why am I eating this particular food and no one else? Or why is it important to evaluate one’s life?

The more I relaxed, the more questions I had. After about 2 years I started to find a red thread. I began to understand how everything was connected, but made no decision what to do for the rest of my life. It only came after about 4 years. I made lots of different lists of what I thought would make me happy and successful. Lists of things I wanted to accomplish with my life. Lists of people’s characters I wanted around me. But really it didn’t have any value to me. So I started over from scratch time after time. That’s why it took time. I had people come to visit for a week here or there. Then I had 11 months to myself. I would just crack the nuts What should I do the rest of my life?

That became my goal.

What is your goal in life?

2020 the year when everything will be different right ???

New Year's text by Mikael Avatar🔥🔥🔥 2020 the year when everything will be different right ??

My experience with myself and others I coached for 40 years and more than 20,000 hours of one to one coaching is:

  • No one wants to go anywhere voluntarily if they do not suffer and their whole existence is not threatened
  • I have not met anyone who has moved from where they are to a better standard in their lives without a coach / mentor or inspirer to help do what is required, including myself
  • Only 3 out of 100 people succeed though they have a coach / mentor or inspirer to help them come to a completely different way of living a life
  • Next everyone I talked to wants to live another life, but only 3 out of 100 manage to create this

A little of the above statements, he may explain that the coaching industry is only at the beginning of development. Are the coaches too bad because only 3 out of 100 succeed?

No…

Most people who have a coach / mentor / inspirer feel better and have a better understanding of their life, after collaboration.

My mentors I use say that people pay between $ 1000 and $ 10,000 for help for a better life, but 3 out of 100 people do the work that is actually required to take your life elsewhere. 97 people do not do the work, to come to a better life, though they paid for their own development.

3 out of 100 sounds very little, so let me explain. When you were a kid you might paint, ride a horse, play some instrument, play football or some other sport. How many of them you met when you were a child are now:

Artists, work with horses, musicians, or professional sports woman / man?

Probably fewer than 3 people… So we humans test a lot of things but it is about 3 out of 100 that actually after 5 years is still doing what we tested 5 years earlier.

There is no magic pill that you can buy. If you want to create another life, you have to work with the life task.

I have described over and over again how I created things in my life. To become long jumpers, you should do at least 1000 long jumps and 1000 hours of training.

If you want to get to the Olympics, you should do more than 10,000 long jumps and more than 10,000 hours of training. I did about 15,000 hours of training for my world record, in long jump for my injury class at Paraolympisk.

The same if you want to become an artist, musician or veterinarian or other profession. I did 100 paintings to see if I wanted to be an artist. Before, it is not possible to decide. You must, in my opinion, do many hours of work before you can decide if this is really what you want to do. Many read the subject of a profession in younger years, but the majority have a profession in something completely different when they are older.

I would like to say that:

You don’t have to have talent. You need passion to be able to do 10,000 hours in the area you want to succeed.

You need people around you who are like-minded, coaches, inspirers and, above all, people who believe in you, listen to you.

These people, you will need: when in doubt, when you are sad that it does not work, when you make the wrong choice, when you lose all hope of success. This belongs to the process.

So these people around you will support you to overcome all obstacles and keep your focus on your dream of achieving success towards what you are striving for.

Last year 2019, I spent between 500-600 * hours on an advanced Social Media Marketing course and will, among other things, in 2020 start helping people with internet marketing and launch my new website Life Coach Mega.

So now it’s time to see if my 600 hours * of training can produce the return I hope for. I have had great fun with my education and now the fruits will be harvested.

The leading theme from my teachers is:

Do the footwork, reprogram your brain, against the new, which you will create (which is your biggest obstacle, which you will not do), then you need some technical knowledge, but most of it is to train to think from a completely different perspective than where you are now. If you do this, you are there within 12-18 months whatever you want to achieve…

If you do not want to do footwork / rethink, against something new, you will probably live a life that 97% of the earth’s population does. Probably a good life, when you are 70 years old 80 years old and looking back on how you lived.

The 3% who do something else live an extraordinary life, which the other 97% marvel at.

You who read, right up to here …

Thank you: What are your plans for 2020?

Happy new end and welcome to 2020 with new opportunities

Mikael Avatar

Funds of Life Coach Mega, launched in 2020, very soon

* 600 hours per year = 50 hours per month = about 12 hours per week = about 2.5 hours per day Monday to Friday

 

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Thoughts create 100% of your reality

Thoughts create 100% of your realityThoughts create 100% of your reality

I usually ask what reality people live in. It is a statement that requires a little thought. It’s easy to answer my own or society’s reality. But it’s a little trickier than that.

You live in the reality you decide!

Many people say then. I haven’t chosen, but you have. The thought that exists every day determines the reality you live in. Not what you do or say. That’s what you think of.

Your body language often also speaks of how you live or should I say think. It is said that 70-80% of all communication is with the body and movements. Your subconscious mind is mirrored in body language.

CIA / FBI / police officers all over the world go to special training to be able to see in a crowd what people’s intentions are. They study the body language to reveal what you intend to do.

We have grown up thinking in a special way. This is to fit into society’s standards. Follow the system, which is accepted by the community. This is how you should live a life, says society.

What I wonder is:

If now the thought is controlling, 100% the reality you create. Why don’t we get education in elementary school how to control the thoughts so that we can create the life everyone wants?

Today’s reflection one Saturday morning in Thailand

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Laurenz Kleinheider
Benjamin Davies
Abishek

What is to be free?

What is to be free_What is to be free? Is it possible to be free?

I thought it was lying in a hammock by the sea and reading a book or maybe writing a book of my own.

Don’t have things on to do list or must do …

So I tested this. Literally. 2009 I restart. Move to paradise Thailand and walked every day on the beach for hours. Ate my dinner while the sun disappeared into the sea. Went home and felt the warm breeze blow through my hair. Days went by and I had nothing to do, nothing I needed to do. Someone said it takes two years. Two years, then it no longer works.

Month in and month out I went to the beach and ate my dinner with the sun extinguishing the sky. My focus was on finding what I really wanted to do. I thought a lot of things I wanted to do. But they were not true in my reality, which I really wanted to create. There were lots of air castles to be destroyed.

Two years went by and only then did I begin to imagine what I wanted. Two years to really unwind from everything. Today I can feel stress if I must fit in a time, in 2-3 months. I want my free flow of time and preferably nothing should interfere. I have people around me who help get things just floating around, but the system took time to create. Time to even know what I would do for the rest of my life.

In fact, I have never met any person who has taken time off from his life to find his life, for 3 years!

Some weeks, a month here or there, many people have taken the time to find themselves, but not 3 years full-time without anything intruding. It took almost 5 years before I started doing what I really wanted to do.

But has this made me free?

In many ways YES, but many things cannot be affected at all. Things that renew passports and annual stamps at the Immigration Office. Things like not being drawn into complicated relationships with other people.

As soon as I want to create something that is outside my comfort zone, I end up in complicated relationships with other people. This is because I have not learned how to do and have not created this free-flowing uncomplicated system yet. The gears do not fit properly in the gearbox. The car chops and needs to be adjusted before everything works painlessly.

So I talk to people who will help me with the new, but I do not know the words yet and have to guess as well. I must search for the perfect and people say come back when you know. Patience is not humanity’s best developed tool, yet.

So today’s wonder to you is:

How does your life’s gearbox work?

Stress that never settles

Stress that never settlesThe stress that never settles in life. All the time, things happen, and things that can’t be covered. Small things to take when time is in abundance. Time that never comes and things that never get done. Life just goes on and maybe it doesn’t matter if the thing is done.

There is an effort required by force that does not exist. The postponement becomes a vicious circle. Just one more day and the whole week went by. That turned into months and years. Imagine if we chose something else. Some other way of life. Where had we been then. Happier than now or maybe not at all happy.

Speculating about the future is the only thing we can focus on. Speculating about time that has been, is like being late.

Had missions in Bangkok last month. 250 students between 12-18 years old. Is it possible to influence life choices? Is it possible to get people to choose the right path? Is there a right path?

Isn’t everything just pastime until death?

When you go to the fun fair, you want to experience as many rides as possible, but life then? It should not be the same way. Get scared, happy, have stomach upset, expectant and all the other experiences that exist, at the fun fair.

It is said that life is not a game. But also that you should not take life so bloody seriously. What would a life look like if we had no human influence?

Sky is the limit

Sky is the limitSky is the limit

Proverb:
Aim for the sky and you’ll reach the ceiling. Aim for the ceiling and you’ll stay on the floor.
Bill Shankly (1914-1981) Liverpool football manager

For me, this is a limitation. By defining the end goal. It’s like saying: when I’m 40, I’ll be a millionaire

It doesn’t say what to do with the millions you have. Most often, money is not a goal. Without further defining: I will have a house by the sea, a big sailboat and a helicopter that can take me anywhere I want when I am 40 years old. To have this you may need millions.

Aim for stars in what? My experience is that the goal should be clearly defined. The clearer the goal, the easier it is to pursue.

Example:
If you say you want a means of transport. Then can be anything. Bicycle, car, airplane or space rocket.
But if you say you want a red Honda Civic to go to work with, this is more specific and easier to reach.

Many I meet just want peace and quiet. Great wish, I say. But what is this for you. One says to sit for a coffee shop at the train station and see all the people rush past with a cup of coffee, without having a time to attend. Others say a small red cabin in the woods by a lake where it’s miles to the nearest neighbor.

We are all so different and have different definitions of the same thing that it can be interpreted as anything.

The sky is the limit is more prosperity. Good job / career, money at the bank, nice outward and social status.

Aiming at something is one to create a specific directions on how to get there.

Red Honda Civic, may be: you need a job / income to buy one.

It will be much easier to make a plan, for how you can get there, to carry out your wish if you have defined what you want. When you have a plan the only thing you need then is to schedule the plan in your everyday life.

Last week I described about the automatic systems we have and how we create such systems. By doing a little bit every day towards our goals in life. Will you, over time, always reach your goal. You don’t even have to have talent.

What does it mean: Sky is the limit, for you?